Life doesn’t get better, you do.

The key idea behind the above quote can be summed up in one word, perception. We can philosophical here because there is a discipline dedicated to this subject called stoicism but we won’t go there today. Instead lets take a look a Pixar movie because they somehow, time after time, the folks at Pixar manage to convey visceral ideas beautifully in their movies. In Inside out for example, the main character is a young girl (Riley) that is in turmoil because she is forced to start over in a new city, at new school, with new friends because her dad gets a new job. As she slowly comes to terms with her reality she goes through some real hard changes. It’s painful to watch our character suffer. But the transformation that was so painful is what also makes the ending doubly beautiful. We can identify with Riley about the good and bad changes in our own lives. The difference for adults is that we get to choose. We get to choose whether we’re happy or unhappy. However, this is not to say that everything is happy all the time and that sadness has no place in our lives. It’s the understanding that all feelings have their place and we have a certain amount of control over how we respond to life as it unfolds outside our control. Emotional intelligence is something we can develop, slowly, one day at a time. This one of the many lessons one take away from the movie, it’s A+ and we highly recommend it. Tears not included.

Some of the realest words on the net.

Cristian Mihai

Disclaimer: this is going to be a long and (somewhat) harsh post about certain realities of life most of us are trying to evade by all means possible.

I am not writing this post out of empathy. I am not writing this post because I read some articles and now I am trying to pass along the knowledge.

I am writing this article because I understand.

I understand the difference between the burning pain of suffering deeply and the general apathy and hopelessness of depression. The emptiness. The lack of interest, joy, passion. I understand the despair, the loneliness, the reluctance to discuss about it all, the very fatiguing job of hiding it all behind a smile, or an “I’m fine” delivered in the worst way possible.

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When I let go of what I’m, I become what I might be ~ Lao Tsu

The problem with getting really good at something, for example poker, is that eventually you fall in to certain patterns of thinking. This is good because you’re adhering to the best practices which will help you get better at poker. You’ll make incremental skill gains and end up in the 95th percentile or above with enough practice. However, you’re probably not going to change the sport, which may not be what you want at the beggining. But what happens when you’re bored at the top? Maybe you’ll master another subject, or maybe you start experimenting with poker. This is one interpretation of the above quote. What does it mean to you?

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I read a great article sometime toward the end of last year that regards advice that Naval has given in the past. Here are some of the points that stood out to me. I recommend reading the whole article if you have the time.

1. If you want to be successful, surround yourself with people that are more successful than you are. If you want to be happy, surround yourself with people that are less successful than you are.

2. To add behaviours/habits, do it one at a time.
To subtract, easier to do a lot at once. Most of them are interwoven anyways.

3. Pick one behaviour to change and give it 3 – 6 months to carry out.

4. Knowing how little you matter – very important for your own mental health and happiness

5. Set super low expectations and you won’t be disappointed. Seneca’s practice.

6. Confucius says you have two lives and the second one begins when you realize you only have one.

7. Advice to 20-year-old self:

  • chill out, don’t stress so much, everything will be fine
  • be more yourself, don’t try to live up to other people’s expectations
  • self-actualize
  • say no to more things
  • your time is very precious – on your dying days, you will trade EVERYTHING for another day
  • live in the moment

8. If I had always done what I was qualified to do, I would be pushing a broom somewhere***.


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