This article does a fantastic job of explaining emotions that most of us feel at some point in our lives, but don’t quite know how to articulate. Often times we find ourselves doing certain things because we feel a certain way, not logic. This is why self-control is imperative if we want to see lasting positive change in the world.
Adulthood requires mastering the art of delayed gratification and learning to embrace work – to do what needs to be done, rather than what we simply feel like doing. At times we all want to run from these demands and return to our magical childhoods where our every need was met and nothing was asked of us except to exist. Deep in the core of our identity, there is a part of us that wants to regress into “infantile narcissism” — to get back to the blissful, “primary, profound, primeval oneness with mother.” ~ Brett McKay
Read the full post at artofmanliness.com.
… As another example,“I won’t steal” can be a principle to which you refer when the choice of whether or not to steal arises. But to be most effective, each principle must be consistent with your values, and this consistency demands that you ask: Why? Is the reason you won’t steal because you feel empathy for your potential victim? Is it because you fear getting caught? By asking such questions, we refine our understanding, and the development of our principles becomes better aligned with our core values. To be successful, you must make correct, tough choices. You must be able to “cut off a leg to save a life,” both on an individual level and, if you lead people, on a group level. And to be a great leader, it is important to remember that you will have to make these choices by understanding and caring for your people, not by following them. ~Ray Dalio, Principles
“Almost everything will work if you unplug it, and plug it back in. Including you.”
Attachment is not compassion.