Many of us try to meditate and fail. Constant failure leads us to not try. Thus begins a negative cycle. I’ve come out of meditation sessions feeling like a failure. Solution – I don’t meditate anymore. I relax.

Why?

1. It’s easier. I don’t force myself to think of nothing. I slow and deepen breathing. I imagine literally pushing away the mental clutter in my mind. Find image or idea that works best for you.

2. The benefits are much the same. I’m more mindful throughout the day.

3. It’s (mostly) guilt free. I don’t need to feel bad that I screwed up another meditating session.When I’m relaxed I don’t get mad at myself for going on tangents.

4. There is no time limit. I do as mush as I can and stop when I feel is enough.The end result is calmness and gratitude. Relaxing means I’m easy and gentle with myself.

Then I go kill myself at the gym.

If you need some help, try these guided meditations.

Most times I get in to a groove and stay on track. I need routine! This is a really good method actually.

What’s better is forced change or… growth.

In Josh Waitzkin’s book The Art of Iearning, Josh talks about how in his martial arts training he would practice with better fighters. It caused a lot of pain, literally, but it helped him master the art and beat fighters that far out weighed him. He won the 2004 Tai Chi Push Hands world championship.

We don’t welcome change, unless we have to. A better methodology would be to force it once in a while so we are ready when change comes unexpectedly. I don’t even know one “successful” person who has gotten to where they are by always doing what is comfortable.

Recently I met someone one, who at young age (25) has travelled more than a lot of people do in their whole lives. She even lived on a sail boat for a year! Soon she’ll be moving to a different continent for two years to do some really important work, which makes me very happy.

I enjoy travel as well, but I like to keep it short.

The thing is I like taking to the same people year after year. Seeing the same faces and getting to deeper and deeper levels of friendship. This may sound super boring, but follow me for a second. The way you deal with your friendships is going to carry over to your professional relationships. The next time there is a promotion is your boss going to give it to a new hire or a reliable employee she has known for 10 years?

Making friends can be difficult. Keeping them is a lot harder.

Take a look at your friendships, their longevity is a reflection of your character.

Check out this great post by Maria Popova

 

A friend and I were talking about car companies the other day. The conversation came to BMW.
He’s looking at buying one. The thing about BMW is that it they’re always ahead of the game. Every year I wonder how there gonna out do themselves. Some how they do.
That’s because they know a secret.
You have to be better than your yesterday self. You have to test limits. Push boundaries.
I aim to be better than yesterday by looking at my wins and losses. By dissecting them, asking what I could do better next time. This is how the best become the best.
Incremental improvements look like giant leaps when you look back on them.