Many of us try to meditate and fail. Constant failure leads us to not try. Thus begins a negative cycle. I’ve come out of meditation sessions feeling like a failure. Solution – I don’t meditate anymore. I relax.

Why?

1. It’s easier. I don’t force myself to think of nothing. I slow and deepen breathing. I imagine literally pushing away the mental clutter in my mind. Find image or idea that works best for you.

2. The benefits are much the same. I’m more mindful throughout the day.

3. It’s (mostly) guilt free. I don’t need to feel bad that I screwed up another meditating session.When I’m relaxed I don’t get mad at myself for going on tangents.

4. There is no time limit. I do as mush as I can and stop when I feel is enough.The end result is calmness and gratitude. Relaxing means I’m easy and gentle with myself.

Then I go kill myself at the gym.

If you need some help, try these guided meditations.

Most times I get in to a groove and stay on track. I need routine! This is a really good method actually.

What’s better is forced change or… growth.

In Josh Waitzkin’s book The Art of Iearning, Josh talks about how in his martial arts training he would practice with better fighters. It caused a lot of pain, literally, but it helped him master the art and beat fighters that far out weighed him. He won the 2004 Tai Chi Push Hands world championship.

We don’t welcome change, unless we have to. A better methodology would be to force it once in a while so we are ready when change comes unexpectedly. I don’t even know one “successful” person who has gotten to where they are by always doing what is comfortable.